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Beginner's Bondage

The simplest way to put bondage into perspective is that it limits the movement. People have found this type of sexual encounter to be very spicy and exciting for their love lives. Another way of putting bondage to me is, trust. Where one person is restricted, the other is free, which makes the restricted much vulnerable. Trust has to be established between the both completely or otherwise, bondage is not suggested.

Most people who venture into this kind of sex act are the people who want to relax while being pleasured without having to give pleasure back to their partner. The majority though like the aspect of the struggle while at play because they say it increases and builds up the adrenaline rush making it more exciting for them. Being blindfolded is also another part of bondage but the person performing the bondage should be well aware of the position their in concerning their feelings of personal power and not abusing it.

If you’re a first timer, tread lightly by taking turns tying each other with silk scarves and tease each other. You can also use something like a paper strain so that they can easily break free just in case they don’t want to be in that position. Padded cuffs are also good play toys to start with since it prevents chaffing and doesn’t close all the way to prevent the flow of blood. To get better acquainted with blindfolding, try it out first while having casual sex, kissing or during a nice sensual massage.

Here are a few things to remember concerning safety:

- You need to remember that if you don’t feel safe with doing something, don’t do it.
- Bondage games or play should only be with people you trust. The person you just met and seemed really charming is not a good person to play bondage with.
- Learn how to say NO. Do not let the person coerce you or bully you into doing something that you don’t agree with.
- Set a plan. Talk with each other and plan out the whole thing of what you guys are about to do and what is going to happen. It is sacred not to break any of the rules or agreements that you both have set.
- Have a “Safe Word.” The safe word is a word that both of you agreed on to ensure safety. The safe word is good for, just in case you want the person to stop, the person has to stop immediately and release their partner within seconds. Some very useful safe words are “enough,” or “stop.”
- Don’t ever, never tie something around someone’s neck if it wasn’t meant for that purpose. There are things you can buy instead that are specifically made for that purpose. Tying something around someone’s neck that is not intended for the neck can cause fatal strangulation, choking, or tissue damage. Gags are very dangerous as well and is not suggested.
- Never leave someone alone when they’re tied up. Make sure that they’re comfortable, have sufficient breathing, and that nothing is cutting off their circulation.
- Bondage should always be performed in a secure place, not a remote place just in case your partner needs help.
- First timers need to stray away from intricate bondage equipment. These types of equipment are for experts and professionals alike only.
- Practice safe sex.
- Intoxication is also not suggested.

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